Life is not a bunch of Roses!

Life is not a bunch of roses! It gives hard personal knocks, when we are not prepared. We think of something and something else happens. Somebody tries to decorate the life of an unfortunate person, and do not succeed. There are some things that are beyond the reach of humans. We cannot change the fortune of a person. Even when you try to put a smile on someone’s face, which seldom gets happiness in life, you cannot do so. Why? It is perhaps related to Karma. 
The Karma of every person has been recorded and whatever happens — Good or Bad, depends upon his past karma. But then what should we do? Everything is predetermined! So should we stop everything and wait for the happenings? Actually, we should keep on doing things that are our duty and the reasons why we are on earth. Somebody will ask, what is the reason then. Well, you‘ll get it when you have to! When everything seems dark all around, good words of wisdom or an inspiration from someone who faced similar challenges (or even more than that), might inspire you.
In the mixed environments of gardens or the countryside we sometimes come upon ruins (actual ruins or even artificial ruins, which were an architectural feature of picturesque landscapes and gardens). Ruins express the passage of time, and more specifically the qualities of impermanence and transience, all closely associated with melancholy. Ruins induce a contemplative state of mind, suggestive of events and lives from past ages that have come to an end. These structures leave behind only fragments of past lives and events, enticing imagination to reconstruct narratives around, for example, well-preserved ruined abbeys, castles or the overgrown foundations of once-lived in stone cottages. The reflective stance may be part imagination, part memory, but, in any case, melancholy attaches itself to various aspects of the experience: the deserted places of many ruins, the way that ruins generally express the impermanence of culture, or more specifically to, say, the associations made between a ruin and events surrounding it.
The point is how to turn the ruins into a beautiful castle by composing oneself and getting out of emotions. Reading lots of books (especially spiritual ones), doing something that is unnecessary but brings a sense of happiness and facing that extreme emotions and then saying, It’s Ok, might work! Sometimes music works a lot that is why there is a saying, “Melody and Melancholy”. It is not a lyricism of an expressive, emotional subject, but a lyricism turned outwards into the world, a kind of inverted lyricism, down and rendered inorganic through this special type of melancholy, in the sense of a poem uttered by a single speaker, and expressing a state of mind or feeling that is constitutive of that individual subject. Lyric is, in this traditional sense, interiority and solitude. Likewise, the solitude of these melancholic songs is not the solitude of the individual or even of the lonely crowd, but the solitude of the world, glimpsed in the numerous pauses of silence on which the emotional poets endlessly dwell. What results is a lyricism of the impersonal, of climate, cloud, moss, river, stone and ruins.

As said earlier, nobody can construct the fortune of a unfortunate person, its impossible, as the Karma is fixed, but one should always try to love the surroundings and all Almighty has given to the individual. That’s Life!

Amrita Sinha


Escape from Nostalgia!

Nostalgia is that sentimental yearning for bygone experiences. Those experiences that tapped the deepest emotions in us: brotherhood, community, belonging, intimacy and joy to name a few. Many of us have intense nostalgia about our childhoods; rituals around the Holy tree, or our other traditions. I have significant emotion wrapped up in each of these. But knowing that, I still can’t shake the influence of the sentiment wrapped up in those memories. They have driven me well and shaped many of my ideas on family. Reprogramming the “hard wired” nostalgia that we grew up with is not a simple thing. I was moved to soften my heart and consider a new way and to seek out and learn from others who had brought enthusiastic minded leadership and creativity into their families. Submitting myself to the teaching and wisdom of Swami Vivekananda was the key to unleashing God’s story in our family.
Time moves and so is the life! It moves like waves of sea, sometimes rises and sometimes the waves are low. I was stuck in a moment from last two months. I was trying to reverse the timing process, and return to the past. My past was beautiful and the future is becoming dark and uncertain with time. Still, I am thinking over the same thing again and again. What would have happened if I had done this or had done that? The reality is that people who goes, never comes back! The greatest truth of life! May God exempt everyone from this hard truth .I have faced this time and again in life. Books are the only things that can help me to escape from this situation and help in overcoming the feeling of melancholy! Books have been my passion and will be the savior in future too. Being nostalgic and from nostalgia to depression, it’s easy, but then coming out of it is pretty tough! Well, ask me! I still think what would have been the situation if she would have been there? Spent time with myself, with mummy, with roommates, with few friends and could not get the right xing! I think spending time in reading room of my hostel would help. I like being there, concentrating on a topic and then getting command over it! The best thing is to spend life of reality and hence now I am not on any social networking sites anymore, nor on facebook, nor orkut, nor google plus neither in any of this kind of sites. But I like twitter, you can get updated every minute without referring to TV or internet by joining the news sites, like @ndtv, @firstpostin, @Huffingtonpost, etc. Every important news right on your mobile.
Being in present is important. Being in past cannot help, other than being alert and learning lessons from past. Being in future is impossible because we don’t know what is going to happen the next moment. Everything is in present. So, be in present, not in the past or think about the future!
For me present is just books, it gives me immense peace and meditation like feeling when I read. I read text books and the other inspiring books. Reading ‘Swami Vivekananda’ gives immense peace and life like feeling. Spending time with friends is important, especially when they don’t know how you are feeling from inside. They behave normally and it makes you think that everything is, as it was before!
Campus placement is going on in my college. Studying is a duty and a need for me now.
Quotes about Nostalgia:
“Real museums are places where Time is transformed into Space.”
Orhan Pamuk, The Museum of Innocence
Nostalgia is like a grammar lesson: you find the present tense, but the past perfect! ~Owens Lee Pomeroy
“Time was passing like a hand waving from a train I wanted to be on.
I hope you never have to think about anything as much as I think about you.”
Jonathan Safran Foer
“It is strange how we hold on to the pieces of the past while we wait for our futures.”
Ally Condie, Matched

Be in present, but be a little nostalgic too! (by me! )